Justin Hancock

I'm Justin Hancock, a sex and relationships educator, trainer, writer, and now also offering solutions focused coaching for the general public.

SOLUTION FOCUSED CONVERSATIONS ABOUT SEX, LOVE, AND YOU

Join me and my monstera for a Solution Focused Conversation

I offer confidential one-to-one Solution Focused conversations to the general (adult) public. You can chat with me about any issues to do with sex, relationships, and just you / life generally. I'm happy to work one-to-one, or with couples or small groups."I described it to my pal as "magic". It honestly feels incredible that it worked after only session."WHAT WE CAN CHAT ABOUTI've worked with people specifically around sex and relationships and also with folk who want to be more confident, happier, unstuck, more proactive, more creative."His advice is practical and easy to implement and I find myself going back to it in stressful situations again and again."My approach is gentle, affirming, consensual but also matter of fact. I've been facilitating tricky conversations with warmth and resources since 1999. You can see this with my work at BISH and at the Culture Sex Relationships podcast."His gentle and encouraging approach to coaching creates space for you to get in touch with yourself. I felt completely comfortable being vulnerable, honest and authentic."WHAT IS 'SOLUTION FOCUSED?'The approach I use is Solution Focused (Solution Focused Brief Therapy - SFBT). I've been trained in SFBT by BRIEF. This is an incredibly effective, and brief, way of working. We'll firstly chat about your problem, to clarify your 'best hopes' from the session. Then when we've established what we're working on (your preferred future), what it will look like when you get there, and how far you've come already. It's a very straightforward and structured conversation."I feel that I have benefited so much from our session! I left it feeling so moved, and with much more confidence about listening to my own body and wants and leaning in to that."Because the focus of our conversation is on the resources you have, rather than the problems, it's very benign (it won't cause any harm). In fact, it's often really quite fun, generative, and transformative. We're both usually smiling at the end. You can see for yourself what some of my clients are saying about it on this page.FROM PROBLEM TO SOLUTIONAround 80% of people find that solution focused conversations improve their lives somewhat or significantly within a year. This from just 4 or 5 sessions, and maybe even just 1.There are theories about how it works (and it's rooted in materialist philosophy) but in Solution Focused practice, we don't care so much about why it works, we just know it does and try to make use of it.We use plain language and ask simple questions like:
What difference will that make?
How will you know?
What's better?
What else?"I was a bit skeptical tbh, but one session was able to shift my mindset completely."HOW IT WORKS
You book sessions when and IF you want them. In Solution Focused Practice we assume that just one session could be all someone needs. We treat every session like it's the last (and often the first and last). Once you’ve seen me you can choose whether to book another session or not by email – totally up to you.We'll work on zoom but even phone calls can work too. I'll send a link just before the agreed session starts. Everything you talk about will be kept confidential (unless there's a safeguarding issue of course).FEES
Bear in mind that often clients just need one session, so my fees reflect that. Also a lot of my clients are struggling and not well-off, so I have a sliding scale of fees. If you can afford to pay it forward please do.My suggested fees are:
£150 per session if you earn over £75k a year.
£100 if you earn £50k - £75k a year.
£50 if you earn £25k - £50k.
£25 if you earn £15k - £25k.
£15 if you earn under £15k.Or make it what you earn in an hour (pro-rata - min £15).If you're really really hard-up, ping me a message and I'll try and see you for less than this.If you're a couple, your fee will be based on your joint earnings (I'll just send one invoice).I'll send an invoice after the session.HOW TO BOOK
Contact me below, or email me directly bishtraining at gmail dot comIn your email tell me:
- when you're free (give me 3 dates and times when you're free. I'm in the UK. The very best times for me are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday up to 7pm)
- a line or two about what you want from the session (if you like)
- what I should charge you.Find out more about Solution Focused practice here