Justin Hancock

I'm Justin Hancock, a sex and relationships educator, trainer, writer, and now also offering solutions focused coaching for the general public.

Coaching with Justin

I offer confidential one-to-one coaching sessions to the general (adult) public. You can chat with me about any issues to do with sex, relationships, and just you / life generally. I'm happy to work one-to-one, or with couples or small groups."I described it to my pal as "magic". It honestly feels incredible that it worked after only session."I've worked with people specifically around sex and relationships but also with folk who want to be more confident, happier, unstuck, more proactive, more creative."His advice is practical and easy to implement and I find myself going back to it in stressful situations again and again."I've got over 25 years experience in facilitating useful conversations about sex and relationships. My approach is gentle, affirming, consensual but also matter of fact. You can see with my work at BISH and at the Culture Sex Relationships podcast."His gentle and encouraging approach to coaching creates space for you to get in touch with yourself. I felt completely comfortable being vulnerable, honest and authentic."The coaching approach I now use is Solution Focused which I've been trained in (by BRIEF). This is an incredibly effective, and brief, way of working. We'll firstly chat about your problem, to clarify what is going on for you. Then when we've established what we're working on (your preferred future), what it will look like when you get there, and how far you've come already. It's a very straightforward and structured conversation."I feel that I have benefited so much from our session! I left it feeling so moved, and with much more confidence about listening to my own body and wants and leaning in to that."Because the focus of our conversation is on the resources you have, rather than the problems, it's very benign (it won't cause any harm). In fact, it's often really quite fun, generative, and transformative. We're both usually smiling at the end.Around 80% of people find that solution focused conversations improve their lives somewhat or significantly within a year. This from just 4 or 5 sessions, and maybe even just 1.There are theories about how it works (and it's rooted in materialist philosophy) but in Solution Focused practice, we don't care so much about why it works, we just know it does and try to make use of it.We use plain language and ask simple questions like:
What difference would that make?
How would you know?
What's better?
What else?"I was a bit skeptical tbh, but one session was able to shift my mindset completely."How It Works
You may only want to see me for a handful of sessions over the course of a few weeks. Sometimes just one session of Solution Focused Coaching is enough. Once you’ve seen me you can choose whether to book another session or not by email – totally up to you.We'll work on zoom but even phone calls can work too. I'll send a link just before the agreed session starts. Everything you talk about would be kept confidential (unless there's a safeguarding issue of course).My fees are:
£100 per session if you earn over £75k a year.
£70 if you earn £50k - £75k a year.
£45 if you earn £25k - £50k.
£25 if you earn £15k - £25k.
£15 if you earn under £15k.Or make it what you earn in an hour (pro-rata - min £15).If you're a couple, your fee will be based on your joint earnings (I'll just send one invoice).I'll send an invoice after the session.Contact me below, or email me directly bishtraining at gmail dot comIn your email tell me:
- when you're free (give me 3 dates and times when you're free. I'm in the UK.)
- a line about what you want from the session (if you like)
- what I should charge you.Find out more about Solution Focused practice [here],(https://www.brief.org.uk/therapy-and-coaching/from-problem-to-solution)